Hi there,
Happy Monday!
Here’s your weekly dose of The Monday 3: a quote, an insight and an action I’m taking.
With love,
Toby
A quote I’m pondering
Reflection without action is ultimately as unproductive as action without reflection.
Robert Kegan - Professor in Adult Learning and Professional Development at Harvard and author of Immunity to Change
An insight
The book Immunity To Change (by Robert Kegan) presents a 4 step framework to address the deeper motivations we all have to protect the status quo in order to remain safe.
These 4 questions guide you through it:
- What is your positive meaningful goal or desired behaviour?
- What are your behaviours that actively work against your stated goal?
- If you stop your obstructive behaviour, what terrible or uncomfortable thing might happen to you?
- What does this reveal about an unexamined belief or rule about yourself and the world that makes your competing commitment feel like an absolute truth?
An action I’m taking
In situations of heightened emotions, I’m focusing on deepening my presence to sit with the person rather than trying to change or fix.
Is there one of these that really stood out for you? I’d love to hear your thoughts or suggestions, whether that’s a favourite quote or something else.
I hope you have a great week ahead.
With love,
Toby
PS: Want to take this further?
I work with people to step up through change and growth.
If that’s you or someone you know, drop me an email: tj@tobyajenkins.com.
