Hi there,
Happy Monday!
Here’s your weekly dose of The Monday 3: a quote, an insight and an action I’m taking.
With love,
Toby
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A quote I’m pondering
Pain and purpose are two sides of the same thing. A person struggling with depression is very likely a person yearning to feel fully. A socially anxious person is very likely a person yearning to connect with others. You hurt where you care, and you care where you hurt.
Professor Steven C. Hayes – Psychologist; Developer of Relational Frame Theory and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy
An insight
After intense periods of accumulated fear, frustration, anger, sadness or tension, tears are not the enemy. They are the opposite. What if you could come to see them as a physiological release?
Picture a stream building up behind a dam. As more water builds up behind the wall, more energy is required to build and maintain the dam. While that might be useful and even necessary at times, you don’t want to try to hold it back for ever. Because sooner or later it will come through.
So you can keep building the dam higher or you can open the dam to release the stream.
By reframing your tears as a natural, important release, you may find there is some peace with the practice of letting tears come and go as they need.
An action I’m taking
One of my favourite practices is to write a single sentence to each of my girls in small, red, unlined Moleskine notebooks at the end of a day. It might be some fun we’ve had together, something I’m grateful for, a comment they’ve made or a challenge we’ve navigated. I don’t get to it every day, but it’s a better day when I do.
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Is there one of these that really stood out for you? I’d love to hear your thoughts or suggestions whether that’s a favourite quote or something else.
I hope you have a great week ahead.
With love,
Toby
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